“Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery of the truth about the unique history of our childhood.  Is it possible, then, to free ourselves altogether from illusions?  History demonstrates that they sneak in everywhere, that every life is full of them-perhaps because the truth often seems unbearable to us.  And yet, the truth is so essential that its loss exacts a heavy toll, in the form of grave illness.  In order to become whole we must try, in a long process, to discover our own person truth, a truth that may cause pain before giving us a new sphere of freedom.  If we choose instead to content ourselves with intellectual ‘wisdom,’ we will remain in the sphere of illusion and self-deception.”  [bold emphasis my own] – Alice Miller, The Drama of…